yes, finally i had shared my group work plan with my ALS memebrs, and also with Alex
i am not sure whether they understand of my writing, because i am kind of lazy to translate my work from Bahasa to English again...
it's kill my time.
for the work with children from the HOME, i felt a bit sorry, as the children is in difficult situation. After i talk with my superior, she is thinking to teach the management level, the staff at The Home some basic counselling skill, and also the counselling concept.
there is a needs for the clarification.
i will see how can worked it out
in the google doc, i also try to outline the other issues, which i think is quite popular,
the stress and the depression in adolescent. it's a issues that we need to take into consideration as growing up, trnasition in life is difficult.
these few days , i received many cases about the relationship, family conflict, husband-wife affairs, issues with children, relationship on intimacy, sexual intercourse underage.... the challenge seems like coming at the same time.
sometimes, i felt a bit "nervous" to receive them, as i know i habe fear, and doubt of whether i can HELP the client. but based on the principle, and ethics i hold, if i felt i can't handle, i will try to refer them to counsellor i felt maybe able to help them.
hopefully, cheng and pris will get well soon, and we can on discussion to decide what group we need to run for...
phaik nee, melinda and seok binn not yet decide the topic, they decide to postpone the discussion untill 21.9.09.
hmm.... will do some reading again......
Summary of TuoG
14 years ago
Just a word of advice, learn to centre and ground yourself...... as a helper, you can be overwhelmed by the demand that can be made upon your humanity through the vicarious empathy for the suffering of our fellow human beings. You will be more effective if you focus on yourself and determine the limits of your resources and thus make more efficient use of it which may mean having to confront your own discomfort in making choices to offer to some and thus having to exclude others at any given moment in the choices you make. Its a fallacy to think you are compel to help any who ask for it because you will not be of help anyone when you spread yourself too thin. Sometimes suffering may be necessary as part of the healing journey and to deny suffering is sometimes to deny life itself and the 'turning' or transformation from within than occurs when the individual becomes sick of the sickness itself...quote from Lao Tzu and the Tao Te Ching Chap 71
ReplyDeleteKnowing ignorance is strength.
Ignoring knowledge is sickness.
If one is sick of sickness, then one is not sick.
The sage is not sick because he is sick of sickness.
Therefore he is not sick.
Ya. Alex Si fu, i am learning! Centre and ground myself. And for case that i can't "help much", or beyond my competent level, i will refer to another counsellor, or resources that can help the client. and for the HOME, i reject the 2nd only girls group, they are sending me again 3 name list! it's ok.. i will worked it out
ReplyDeleteTQ ^.^