Thanks Priscilla and Alex,
i learn this , and i am using it now
in a family retreat program with juvenile delinquent teenagers and their parents
preparing the box, material, and asked the participants to choose a box
then, they will take some time to decorate the box, cut and paste to make the box lively
then, i asked the participant stay together with the box they create
try to look deep into the box
what the main message they want to tell to this special person
( i already told participant, this special person : for parents - to this special child, for child- writ to parents)
i asked them to think pf this specific person
imagine ~ what they want to say, what they want them to aware
then, i asked them to try to convey in drawing form, if unable to write
if they fell writing, just write a message for the special person
things they want the children/parents to know about~
take their time, provided time is 1 hours
they still can continue it from time to time~
when they finished doing it....
i kept it. till the last day, before they go back~
i asked to reveal the secret box
the father/mother will sit back to back
mother/father will take their box give to their child
The child will gave his box to parents
then, child will start read what is inside the box
parents just listen
tn other hand, children will listen to what he had written by parents
no comment, no interruption, but only listening to what had writen by each other
then...
i asked them to turn to face-to-face
father/mother and children share about their feeling
sharing ONLY, clear instruction was given
how they feel, when they read it, and listen for the message by both party
after this, i asked the parents to hold hand with children
they need to hold hand, and look into each others eyes
hold stronger the hand, and try to feel the hand of the father/mother/ child
well,
after this, i give instruction ask the children to touch the face of parent
asked the parent to touch the face, the forehead
in the touching, i asked them to feel, how is parents now?
are they still strong? getting older？ any wrinkle at eye side?
then, i asked the children to convey thankfulness to parent
SAY :
TERIMA KASIH - AYAH DAN IBU
SAY :
MINTA MAAF, MAAFKAN SAYA AYAH DAN IBU
SAY :
SAYA SAYANG KAMU, PAPA/MAMA
MOTHER/FATHER SAY:
I LOVE YOU TOO~
HUG ` HUG```` each other
then, i continue with a song, " KU ada MU"
asked them to hug for at least this SONG~
to stay close with the hug. feeling the heart-beat of each
silently ~
THE SECRET BOX TOUCH EVERYONE
ONLY LOVE DOES MATTERS
~ BRING LOVE TO HOME ~
BY: X10
